Hello, Claire; here is the latest installment of my Real Bride’s Diary.
Following on from the venue-search post, I had to discuss choosing a photographer for your wedding.
We almost called off our wedding, but not the marriage, so don’t be alarmed! I thought I’d tell you first about it!
I will soon wax lyrical on all the great Irish photographers we chose from.
We’re still a long way from our wedding, but I have already experienced that moment when you almost call off the entire thing because of your freak-out.
This happened around three weeks ago. It was a table. What has happened to me?
Marko and I have been very organized in our planning. I have been trying not to sweat the small things (as almost every couple of Bridal Musings feature shares in their Wedding Write-ups). So far, I am doing well.
Although I am practical and know that no one will care as much as I do about cutlery or tablecloths, I still want to have a beautifully styled event (it is what I do as a profession!). It isn’t easy to find a balance.
The funny thing is, we all want to have a relaxed and ‘unwedding” wedding. But, it turns out that if you try to make things less formal and fancy, they end up being more expensive. ).
When friends of mine go to weddings, they only report back if it is enjoyable. They will rave about the music, the banter, and who was present. Rarely will they mention rustic tables or foliage garlands.
Why is it that when you are planning your wedding, the little things matter so much?
Minor details seem so stereotypical (and I swore that I would not be the bride!) ).
Mark and I decided to marry and have a big wedding. They are two completely different things. We said that we would only do it if we had fun.
It wasn’t much fun a few weeks ago. Mark felt the same way.
Some vendors didn’t return any quotes, while others quoted double or triple the amount we expected. Many of the relaxed touches we wanted were not possible with our space. We were also told that we could not have the rustic, bare tables we loved at our venue. Sourcing an alternative was a major (and expensive!) headache. We were told that we couldn’t have the rustic, bare tables at our venue and found sourcing an alternative to be a complete (and expensive!) headache.
The day was turning into something we didn’t want it to be.
This is something I’ve heard a lot of brides say, but (given my profession), I thought I was the only one! I felt that being realistic, creative, and practical would prevent this from happening to me.
It’s not like our parents are pressuring us into a large, extravagant party. We don’t know when or where we got off course. It evolved from a casual BBQ to a wedding.
