Listen up: Your family needs to give you their list of guests. Friends won’t invite their newest flings. People give you unsolicited advice. No one asks stupid questions at a wedding.
You could find yourself in this situation if you plan a surprise marriage.
It was initially a joke. Fashion Editor Christina and I wished for a mainstream world where surprise weddings were commonplace. No one will give their opinion if they don’t know you are planning your wedding. There’s no need for a peanut gallery or judgment. Your guests can find the answers they seek on your beautifully designed wedding website. The surprise wedding combines the elopement-style attitude with the pomp and ceremony of a real wedding.
How to plan a surprise wedding
SUBMIT YOUR STORY AND REMAIN FIRM TO IT.
You should tell your family and friends the truth if they know you are engaged. Avoid the constant “When is the date?” You can answer the question “We are planning to get married in two years …” or something similar. Ensure that you and your future partner are on the same page and can deflect questions in harmony.
BOOK A WEDDING PLANNER
We urge you to hire assistance when planning something so secret. A wedding planner will handle the logistics. A professional coordinator will also stop you from losing hope and telling people about your event that you do not want them to know. Your planner will ensure that your secret remains secret until your wedding day.
Book your wedding venue and vendors.
This is the same as regular wedding planning. You will need to choose a date for your wedding, the location where you’ll say “I do,” and all of the vendors that you want to have on this special day. This is another area where a wedding planner can significantly help, as your family and friends may only sometimes assist.
Shop online for your wedding dress.
You can now shop for your wedding dress online. You can shop in a hair salon. Make sure that no one can see you enter the salon. We also recommend checking out the incredible bridal designers who sell online. You can purchase custom gowns directly from designers via Etsy. You can also find RTW designer clothing at a great price (compared to custom-made fashion) on websites like Moda Operandi or Net a Porter. These are our favorite online wedding dress stores.
Choose a fake event you know your friends and family will not miss.
Engagement party? Achieving a vast work achievement? A beloved person from out-of-town is visiting? Invite your friends and family to an event they will not want to miss. There will be people who miss out. It’s the same for regular weddings. I promise. Plus, if the guests (the ones who you want to RSVP “No”) don’t realize it’s an actual wedding, they are less likely to come.
Avoid using the phrase “Surprise Announcement.” Your guests are more able to guess than you might think. Wait to invite guests. Sending invites one to four weeks before the wedding will give guests time to plan but not enough time to become suspicious. It’s best to keep your wedding stationery a little more casual. digital invites track the recipients of your invitation in case you have to follow up quickly.
ALTERNATIVELY, ANNOUNCE YOUR SURPRISE WEDDING ONE WEEK PRIOR VIA FORMAL INVITATIONS.
You want to ensure that your favorite family members and friends attend. You can announce the surprise one week in advance as part of your wedding invitations. Your guests will be able to participate in the wedding without accidentally missing it. You need more time to make decisions about your wedding. What damage can be done after you’ve already chosen your guest list, venue, vendors, and wardrobe?
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